Toilet training turning into a daily workout

We've started to toilet train our youngest daughter and it's a nightmare! She's three at the end of February and began pre-school at the start of September.

We were told that ideally she needed to be in knickers to start. She could go in pull-ups but on the understanding that if she does a number two - we have to go in and change her. The reason they gave as an explanation was that 'they don't have the facilities to do it themselves' as the playgroup is inside the school that she will eventually attend and they have to share toilets with the older children.

When I ask her does she want to go on the toilet, this is one of the many faces she pulls. Saying: "Not yet mummy, not yet"

She's been once and no poo but I'm dreading that call. Some of the parents are OK with the situation whilst others are up in arms.

What are your thoughts? Would you be happy to get a phone call at work to go in and change your little one?

During her recent check the health visitor said they shouldn't be pushed and it'll click when they're ready. But why do children seem to be taking longer to potty train? If you listen to our parents we were all in underwear by 2 years of age.

Was this down to the dreaded terry towelling nappies or did Mums have more time?

I'm not sure. Either way, we're struggling!

I started off believeing she would be done and dusted during the summer break. I was comparing her to daughter number one who got the toilet thing very quickly - I was lucky and thought it would be the same again. What I hadn't banked on though was my Little Miss Negative! She will go on the toilet when she feels like it but when you feel like it - it's like she's a member of the panel on Dragon's Den as she turns and gives you a big NO!

I've tried so much bribery. Here are a few...

1. Cartoon character knickers - Look at these lovely Peppa Pig/Dora knickers. WOW! Don't get Dora wet, you don't want to give her a shower. She loves the knickers but couldn't care less about getting the imaginative characters wet!

2. Reward chart - Look at these gorgeous stickers, We can put one up everytime you have a wee or a poo. You're a good girl. The response - "Don't want to be a good girl".

3. Pennies - Everytime you've been on the toilet Mummy will give you a penny. At the end of the week we can count up your money and go to the shop. What do you think? "NNNNOOOO" Don't like!

Anyone got any other ideas? I think she just likes to make my life difficult?

That said, we are making some progress though, she does have a wee on the toilet at some point during the day but she won't tell us and often when I put her on she has a temper tantrum. She is literally driving me POTTY!!

Maybe I need to look again at an interview we did with Mum and Author Elizabeth Pantley. She had some great advice. Back to the books for me!

If you have any tips, all are very welcome. X